At a school visit earlier this week, a third-grade girl complained to me that time was going by too fast. As if proving the point, I had no time to probe for her meaning. Perhaps she mimicked an adult’s comment or attitude, but I worried that a child should feel this pressure, a hurriedness that I assume only older folks like me experience. Of course I resented the usual constrictions of time at her age: come-inside-time, bathtime, bedtime. But what I most strikingly recall is that waiting for the good times–my birthdays, Halloweens, summer break–seemed as long as a lifetime. I heard my great grandma say one Fourth of July that Christmas was just around the corner. What?!? Where was that corner?
Learning fractions the next year helped me understand: as an octogenerian, a year was about 1/80th of Great Grandma’s life, a mere sliver. But at 9, my tour around the sun was 1/9th, a hulking slab of life, luckily shaved thinner every year. I’d just have to wait a little longer to escalate.
No doubt times were simpler in my own childhood. I didn’t have to take charge of much except my pet rabbit Harvey. Nor did I control much of anything. Not my bedtime, or what I ate for dinner, or where I had my birthday party (always in our unfinished basement). But I did have one freedom and that was choosing the books I read. Free run of my parents’ bookshelf, unlimited trips to the library, and a good flashlight stalled time within the pages of another world, a private world where the only measure of passing time was how close I was to the end of the story. Time faded as the world of the tale grew larger and never caught up because that’s how books were, a dream outside of time. And still are.
To hell with fractions.
I'm impressed–my kids refuse to take charge of our rabbit, which perhaps shows that, though they rarely take charge, they are in charge. And it shows that our rabbit is vicious.